Allergic to Numbers
Allergies are common in today's society. Some people are allergic to food. Some people are allergic to pollen. Some people are allergic to medications. My wife, Sarah, is allergic to numbers. Strange, I know! If it involves numbers, counting, dollars, or math, she's out. She's been this way since the day I met her, and I suspect will be the same until the day she dies.
Yesterday, I received the following text from her:
That's right. Numbers. Math. Dollars. This text was her first communication for the negotiation of March's budget. Each month, for the last 200 months, Sarah and I have negotiated a budget for our household. Yes, she's allergic to numbers, but that doesn't exclude her from the process. Yes, I make 99% of our family's income, but that doesn't exclude her from the process. Yes, I'm a professional in this area, but that doesn't exclude her from the process.
I create a draft budget, she reviews it, she provides initial feedback, and then we negotiate. Once the budget is final, we both commit to honoring said budget until the completion of the month. Then, we do it again next month. This is what a team looks like. We each have roles in the process, but we both must be accountable and engaged.
One of my clients recently said they have no idea how they even lived their lives before budgeting became a fixture in their marriage. That resonated with me. If it weren't for Sarah and I's discipline in this area of our lives, there's zero chance we'd be anywhere close to where we are now. Frankly, I'm not sure we'd even have a marriage. The tension that finances have on marriages is massive. In fact, financial tension is the number one cause of divorce in America. That's wild....and sad! My running joke (not joke) with clients is that "Sarah and I have enough issues that we can't afford money to be one of them."
How long does it take me to create the first draft of the budget? Probably 10 minutes. How long does it take for Sarah and me to negotiate the final budget? Probably another 10 minutes. How long does it take me to track our budget each month? Probably 30-40 total minutes throughout the month. Therefore, approximately 60 minutes per month is the difference between living in constant tension, friction, and unknown vs. watching all our dreams come true, with unity.
It's a small price to pay for unquestionable, uncapped upside.
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